Background: Undergraduate at Stanford University and York University, 1979. Graduate degree, Ed. D. OISE, University of Toronto, 1985; Registered with the College of Psychologists of Ontario, 1986. Professional positions: at The Clarke Institute of Psychiatry, METFORS (forensic psychology) 1981-87 (as a psychometrist and as a psychologist). Ontario Ministry of Correctional Services, psychologist for “Young Offenders” males and females, ages 16-18 Vanier Centre in Brampton, 1987-89. Psychologist , employed by Peel Memorial Hospital in Brampton, as Director of Addiction Counseling Services of Peel, 1989-2001. Private Practice, 2001-2019, specializing in individual counseling and psychotherapy, couples therapy, addiction counseling, and trauma.
Comments on Psychotherapy:
Let’s talk about your becoming involved in therapy. Let’s call this the “Real Estate Model” of exploration. Picture building a house (there may be one or more in your experience). First, there is a foundation, which may include a basement. So, I use “psychodynamic” theory to explain what is happening at this level of early structural personality development. There is a duo between the processes of the “unconscious mind” and the “conscious mind” inside this ‘building’, which is being constructed. Often the unconscious mind makes demands that may not be realistic. The conscious mind tries to regulate this situation. Sometimes we talk about the left side of the brain as the rational side, and the right side of the brain as emotional. When there is conflict or confusion in their internal conversation, CBT (cognitive behavior therapy or cognitive therapy) can be helpful. It is a preferred treatment in many instances.
So, in the therapeutic process and conversation, one can explore the rooms in the house. This can stimulate memories that may have lain dormant for maybe a long time. Depending on what is found in a room, there may be a requirement for a variety of therapeutic strategies for fixing situations and problems.
In your imagined house, think of what gets taken to the basement or the attic, or the garage, for instance. Often, then, these, unwanted items or memories have been waiting for discovery and recovery. They may have affected you by creating pain, depression, anxiety, worry, shame and guilt.
Thus, psychotherapy becomes a dynamic exploration and practice in resolving the inner, psychological issues, and creating a safe, peaceful, and happy house. It is a very important conversation, and maybe a crucial one, to hold with your therapist.
“Mindsight” by Daniel J. Siegel, M.D.; “The Heart of Addiction“ by Lance Dodes, M.D.